Wedding Party Roles & Responsibilities
Being asked to join a wedding party is a huge honor. It also comes with a specific set of expectations, financial commitments, and day-of duties. Here is everything you need to know.
It takes a village to pull off a flawless wedding. Your closest friends and family are there to support you emotionally, practically, and sartorially.
The Maid/Matron of Honor (MOH)
She is the captain of the bridal squad. The right-hand woman. Her duties span from the moment you get engaged until you leave for your honeymoon.
Pre-Wedding Duties:
- Help shop for the wedding dress and bridesmaids' dresses.
- Lead the planning and host the Bachelorette Party.
- Co-host the bridal shower (often with the bride's mother).
- Act as the bride's sounding board for decor ideas and themes.
Day-Of Duties:
- Hold the bride's bouquet and the groom's ring during the ceremony.
- Help the bride manage her train and veil.
- Sign the marriage license as an official witness.
- Give a speech/toast at the reception.
The Best Man
The groom's closest confidant. He is the logistical manager for the groomsmen and the keeper of the rings.
Pre-Wedding Duties:
- Organize and host the Bachelor Party (and ensure everyone pays their share!).
- Coordinate suit/tuxedo rentals or purchases for the groomsmen.
- Attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
Day-Of Duties:
- Keep the groom calm and on schedule.
- Hold the bride's ring until the exchange of vows.
- Pay the officiant (often handled with an envelope prepared by the couple).
- Give the first toast/speech at the reception.
The Financial Reality
Being in a wedding party is expensive. Members are traditionally expected to pay for their own attire (dresses/suits), travel, accommodations, and a portion of the bachelor/bachelorette parties. As a couple, you must be transparent about these costs upfront before asking someone to stand beside you.
Bridesmaids & Groomsmen
The supporting cast. Their primary job is to be helpful, enthusiastic, and on-time.
- Purchase their required attire promptly.
- Attend pre-wedding parties (showers, bachelor/bachelorette).
- Help with DIY projects (like assembling favors or addressing invitations).
- Serve as ushers if needed before the ceremony.
- Be the first ones on the dance floor to encourage other guests!
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